Let’s face it– this is the most stressful part of the wedding for a maid of honor or best man. We’re here to help with some of the best pointers we know and a few quotes to help you get started.
Be prepared. Sounds like a no-brainer, right? Don’t leave off writing your speech until the night before. Give yourself plenty of time to write down notes and practice in front of the mirror (or other friends). Don’t be afraid to write notecards down so you remember on the big day.
Keep it short. We recommend clocking your speech at two to four minutes.
Don’t use inside jokes. If the majority of the audience won’t understand it, leave it out. If you really want to say it– write it in a card to the bride and give it to her before the wedding or include it with your gift.
Try to avoid that bolstering glass of champagne or a cocktail until after you’ve delivered the toast.
Speak slowly and clearly– don’t forget to breathe!
Some quotes to get you started:
- For the youthful, fun couple: “The heart that loves is always young.” Greek Proverb
- For your literary friend: “I wish you all the joy you can wish.” (The Merchant of Venice, Act III)
- For the traveler: “People are like cities: We all have alleys and gardens and secret rooftops and places where daisies sprout between the sidewalk cracks, but most of the time all we let each other see is is a postcard glimpse of a skyline or a polished square. Love lets you find those hidden places in another person, even the ones they didn’t know were there, even the ones they wouldn’t have thought to call beautiful themselves.” (Hilary T. Smith, Wild Awake)
- For the Biblical couple: “I found the one whom my soul loves.” (Song of Solomon 3:4)